Monday, August 27, 2007

What to do?

A very good friend told me today that her husband has been drinking. He was involuntarily retired in December from the ANG because he turned 60. He actually ended up in the hospital a few months ago with alcohol induced hepatitis. She's an RN and has tried to tell him what can happen to him, but he just doesn't seem to listen/understand.
I'm at such a loss. They're both friends and I hate to see her hurting like this. He's so unhappy being retired. He does have a part time job-every other Saturday-but I don't think it's enough. He has to feel like he has a purpose in life.
She says he needs rehab but she hasn't got the guts to do it. I just wish there was something I could do.


Gail said...

I'm sorry that your friend is going through this, and that you are too because you care about them. Having people close to me in similar situations, tell your friend that rehab isn't going to help him until HE wants to do it.

TerriW said...

So many men have problems with retirement. Even if they did not particularly like their jobs. They tie so much of themselves up in their careers. It who they are and now they don't know who they are anymore.

Anyway, he understands just fine. I doubt he is stupid. He just can't or won't change it. You are right about him needing a purpose. I hope he finds it.


Laurie Ann said...

I agree with Gail. All the talking and nagging in the world won't help unless he wants to change. You are right about him needing to have a purpose. 60 is young. He could almost start a second career! I do think men have a harder time retiring.

Deb said...

I'm sorry for your friend, and for you. I know how hard it is when someone you love is suffering and you feel powerless to help. I will send positive, healing thoughts and prayers your way.